How To Get Alone Time As A Mom
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Being a mom is hard.
Raising children, getting food on the table, running errands, cleaning, driving kids around.. It’s a never ending list of things that needs to get done.
I get up at 6 am every single morning when my baby wakes up. And at 9 pm, I can barely keep my eyes open.
I am a stay at home mom. And it is amazing. I’m currently living my dream. Being a mom has made me a better person and I’m thankful for my life every single day. But needless to say, being a mom can take a toll on you.
Anyone who has a kid that has screamed all the way home from the store, or who has refused to put their clothes on when you’re in a rush knows what I’m talking about. Some days are easy, but it’s no wonder you run out of patience sometimes.
In order to recharge and get the patience back, you’ll need to get some peace and quite. And that peace and quite are most often found when you’re alone.
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How To Get Alone Time
Being alone allows you to reboot your brain and unwind. By being alone you get the chance to think through problems deeply and you get to discover yourself and find your own voice. There’s a lot of benefits of being alone. But when you’re a mom, it’s not always that simple to find time to be just alone.
I used to hate being alone. There was nothing worse. But now that I am a mom, I crave it! Klicka för att Tweeta
Ask your partner for help
Why should you even have to ask your partner for help when it’s his kids as well? For a lot of moms, this is a no-brainer. But in most families, it’s the mother who takes care of the children majority of the time, even if the father is home too.
If this is the case for you, you need to make your husband understand that you deserve alone time. Men are overall really good at taking time for themselves. But if your husband isn’t one of those men, encourage him to leave the house to do something fun by himself. That way he’ll understand that you both could benefit from some alone time.
If you need a little push. Schedule a weekend where your husband gets 3-5 hours of alone time on Saturday. On Sunday, you get the same amount of time to yourself. Leave the house to do something fun, get your husband and kids out of your head, and DON’T feel guilty about it. Make sure that you come home as a happier person. That will make your husband want you to leave the house more often.
Get support from your family
Your family is especially important if you are a single mom or if you have a husband who just doesn’t seem to get it. This doesn’t have to mean your parents or siblings. You might have a cousin or an aunt that you can get support from or maybe you could get some support from your mother in law.
Ask your family to take care of your kids for an afternoon while you stay at home and read a book. Or ask them to take your kids to their soccer game and watch while you get some quite time.
Is your birthday coming up? Ask for babysitter coupons. Alone time is much more valuable than a flower or a new bowl. Your kids will probably love that gift too. Last year, I actually gave babysitting coupons to my mom. I made ten coupons out of regular white paper and wrote “One hour with Anton” on them. So far, she’s used two of them.
Ask your friends
Friends with kids or the parents of your kid’s friends are great to take advantage of when you’re in need for a babysitter. If you don’t usually watch each other’s kids, start off by inviting the whole family to your home for a playdate. Then you can talk and get to know each other before you watch each other’s kids.
Start a babysitting group with some friends, neighbors or parents of your kid’s friends. You can take turns to watch each other’s kids once a month or drive each other’s kids to basketball. That way you’ll get alone time continuously.
Pay for it
Why not hire a babysitter? Seriously, why not? It’s a great way for you to be able to leave the house for a few hours, do something fun, and come back as a new, improved, and happier mom.
You might not feel comfortable with hiring a babysitter. And I get that it can feel weird with a stranger in your house watching your kids. But if you ask around, you might find someone with good recommendations. Or maybe a teenager of someone you know want’s to earn a few bucks.
Teach your kids
I don’t doubt that you’re doing an awesome job with teaching your kids everything that they need to know. But if you’re not doing a good job of taking time to yourself, then you’re most likely missing out on teaching your kids one important thing.
Time to yourself is crutial when it comes to mental health.
You should teach your kids from a young age that alone time is important. And it’s not only important for you to have alone time. They could probably also benefit from being alone in their room for a while. I bet that if you leave your kids alone in their room for a while, without an iPad or tv, they’ll be playing, reading, drawing, or doing something else that’s fun in no time!
One way that you can teach your kids is to divide time. Give your child 30 minutes to decide what he or she wants to do. Turn your phone off and be completely present for those 30 minutes. When the timer goes off, it’s your time to get to do whatever you want.
But if you’re desperate for some alone time, like this second. Put the kids in front of the tv! And don’t feel bad for it. Research has actually shown that young kids can learn from watching educational tv shows (e.g. Dora the explorer).
Research has actually shown that young kids can learn from watching educational tv shows. Klicka för att Tweeta
Change the way you think
The biggest obstacle that stands in the way of you getting alone time, is probably you. If you’re a mom, I bet that you feel guilty when you’re not with your kids, or when you’re not thinking of your kids.
This needs to change. If you don’t feel that you deserve alone time, you’re not going to enjoy it anyway.
You need to make alone time a priority to yourself. Try to plan something fun to do. By making sure that it’s something you actually want to do, you’ll be more likely to do it. It might even be a good idea to schedule alone time. But you have to remember to stick to that plan.
Remember To Enjoy It
Like I said earlier, being a mom is hard. It’s a thankless job and you rarely get a break to be just a woman. Taking time to yourself instead of taking care of your family can seem selfish. And finding the balance between everything in life and time to yourself might seem impossible.
Making time for yourself is important for so many reasons. It can make you more peaceful, rested, creative, and healthier. Sometimes it just feels good to get to clear your head. Whatever you choose to do when you get alone time, just remember to enjoy it.
Let’s chat down below! What’s your best tip when you need some time to yourself?
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